Profile of a rapist

In the writer' s search for more answers to the issue of rape, the writer has stumbled across a website known as “No Nonsense Self-Defense” http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/. With the permission of the owner of the site the writer would like to reproduce a section on the probable danger signs a potential rapist displays in his behaviour and daily conduct.
If the following traits are found in a person, take care. The more of those traits one observes, the more care one should take not to be alone with him. Even if such a person doesn't rape, these behavioral traits indicate serious character flaws.
Danger signs
1) Insensitivity to others/emphasis on self - Does this person put his needs above the needs, feelings or well being of others? Is getting his way more important to him than other people's welfare? Often this can go beyond mere selfishness and border on an "assumed divine right". These people justify a particularly vicious action with a flippant comment like, "Hey, that's how the game is played." Such a person does not understand that he must co-exist with others, he thinks the world "owes" him whatever he wants. A common tactic with such a person it to make you feel bad for not doing what he wants.
2) Belittling behavior or attitude towards others - Does this person habitually make nasty, belittling or degrading comments about others – especially under the guise of making jokes? Does this person think he is better than others? Does he look down on others? Is he a nouveau riche aristocrat? Is he a racist? A person who thinks that race or social position makes him superior may also assume that his gender does too. When someone thinks he are superior, an assumed right to ‘take’ what he want often follows.
3) Negating behavior or comments - Closely related to 1 and 2. Does he try to tell you what you should be feeling or thinking? Or worse, tell you what you are not? Comments like "you don’t really mean that" are serious indicators of someone trying to negate you. A person who negates others is trying to take away the other person’s thoughts, feelings and needs and attempting to project his wants onto that person. The most obvious example of this is "Well even though she says ‘no’, she really meants ‘yes’".4) Hostile and/or threatening language - What kind of words does a person use? The choice of words conveys subconscious assumptions about a particular topic. For example a man who generically refers to women as "bitches" does not have a good opinion about females (or much respect). It is all too easy to dismiss this behavior as just "letting off steam." But if it is a constant behavior, it goes far beyond that. Someone who habitually uses violent or threatening language should be carefully watched for a possible escalation of physical violence. It’s on his
mind already. It’s a uncomfortably short step from ‘thinking about it’ to ‘doing it’.
5) Bullying - This behavior is especially dangerous. Does this person use overt or subtle threats to get his way? A bully uses the threat of violence more than actual violence. Most often bullies are not willing to risk conflict with someone who can hurt them (an alpha male), and will instead chose to intimidate someone he considers weaker and safer. Someone who is a bully in other matters can easily turn to bullying you regarding sex.
6) Excessive anger - How easy does this person become angry? Is he a "short fuse"? Does he boil over at the slightest problem? This is an indication of chronic anger. A person who explodes over a minor issue is like a full pot boiling over on the stove. It’s not that the issue is all that important, but that he has so much anger in him already that any provocation causes him to explode. Often people with chronic anger look for targets to vent their anger on. This could be manifested as fights physical, abuse, or rape.
7) Brooding/ revenge - Does this person hang onto his anger long after the situation is over? Will he still be stewing over something when everyone else has moved on to other things? Will he become anti-social and glare at the source of his anger from across the room? Will he insist on taking revenge for real or imagined slights? Both reactions indicate a petty and obsessive personality. A brooder fixates on something and then works himself into a frenzy over it. A person who seeks revenge "has to win" and is willing to take it to extremes. Refusing such a person’s sexual advances can turn this tendency towards you.
8) Obsession – This is a close cousin to number seven. It is a major factor with acquaintance rapes. This is the person who won’t leave you alone. He insists on ‘hitting on you’ long after you have told him no. He is always trying to establish a forced intimacy (see ‘bonding process’ below). Such obsessions easily turn into anger when his advances are rejected. One day he shows up in a fringe area, drunk and attacks you.
9) Extreme mood swings - Beware of someone who can go from being wildly happy to being deeply wounded at a moment's notice. This sort of personality can feel justified in commit unlimited violence and damage, because you "hurt his feelings." This is a common pattern among those with a chronic anger about life.
10) Physical tantrums - How does this person get angry? Especially when denied, by "getting his way". Beware of a person who regularly physically assaults his environment i.e. hitting walls, kicking things etc. It is only a short step from striking a car to attacking you.11) Jock or gorilla mentality - This mentality promotes both acceptance and use of violence. It is especially common among participants of contact sports. What is most insidious about this mentality is that the "jock" receive not only positive reinforcement, but out-and-out applause for being aggressive and violent. This can easily lead to a failure to differentiate between the playing field and real life. Mike Tyson’s comment is a prime example: "Nobody ever objected before."
12) A mean drunk - Nearly all rape and abuse cases involve alcohol. Watch what surfaces when someone is intoxicated, it shows what is always lurking underneath. Do not put yourself into a situation where you would have to deal with such a person when he is intoxicated. Most importantly, don't allow your faculties to be diminished by alcohol or drugs in this person's presence.
13) Alcohol or drug abuse - To begin with drug and alcohol addiction can be traced back to selfishness and a refusal to change one’s world view. Alcohol and drugs are not the causes of bad behavior, rather they are used as excuses! Often the attacker intentionally became intoxicated so as to ignore the social restrictions and inhibitions regarding violence.
While there are others, these behavioral patterns are indicators of a potential rapist. Not all men are rapists, but a person are on more of these traits has a higher probability than others of being a rapist. You not only find these traits among rapists and abusers, but also professional criminals. Philosophically there is little difference between them, they are all selfish, it is just a matter of degree, style and choice of victims.